The Arrogance of Well-meaning People — The Parker J Cole Show

In April, my hubby and I were walking our dog one afternoon when we came upon our neighbor from a couple of blocks down the street walking her dog. I asked after her husband, who I knew had been sick for a while and she told me he’d passed away a month before. Shocked, I gave her my condolences. She talked about her husband for a few moments. Then I started to share some of my memories of her husband as we walked back to her house. Her smile as I told a particularly humorous event lit her face up. She looked beautiful as we shared in the memory.

About two months later, we walked our dog again and she was sitting outside her home reading a book. After my dog and hers greeted each other, I asked how she had been doing since her husband’s death. She said, “I should be getting over it now.” I froze for a moment and knew in an instant she may have been mimicking someone else’s platitude. It angered me. Her husband had just died TWO months ago. Was it comforting to tell a woman who shared her life with her spouse that she should be over it now?

Unfortunately, this wouldn’t be the last time I’ve heard of people, in the middle of grief, being hurt by well-meaning people. In fact, it would be several more stories over the course of this time that led me to reach out to my returning guest co-host and contributor, Gary Roe. Well acquainted with grief and loss, I wanted him to help understand that in our efforts to give comfort, we need to be so careful of how execute it. In fact, in our well-meaning attempts to help, an certain arrogance may precipitate our words and cause more harm than good.

Join me by calling in at 646-668-8485 and press 1 to be live on air. Or, download Stitcher on your mobile device. Or, click on the link here: http://tobtr.com/10173285.

Write Stuff Author Spotlight — 40 Days of Healing by Danyelle Scroggins

Write Now Literary is pleased to announce The Book Tour for 40 Days of Healing by Danyelle Scroggins. July 27, 2017 

Publication Date: June 12, 2017

Genre: Inspirational

ASIN: B072MS2TLR
ISBN-10: 154806775X
ISBN-13: 978-1548067755

 

40 Days Of Healing takes the reader through 40 days of fasting in hopes of being delivered from the “IT” that has caused separation between them and God, and gives them the opportunity to journal their most personal prayers, thoughts, and intentions.



40 Days Of Healing is also a complete guide to 40 days of fasting and spiritual renewal. It is an opportunity for mind renewal in your mind, body, and spirit. It is saturated with wonderful scriptures to help usher you into your healing.

Pastor/ Author Danyelle is the Senior Pastor of New Vessels Ministries North in Shreveport, Louisiana. She studied Theology at Louisiana Baptist University, has a Psychology Degree from the University of Phoenix, an Interdisciplinary Degree in Psychology /Biblical Studies from Liberty University, and is presently working on a Master’s in Religious Education from the Liberty University. Pastor Danyelle owns Divinely Sown Publishing LLC and is the author of both Christian fiction and non-fiction books. She is the wife of Pastor Reynard Scroggins Sr., the mother of three by birth and two additional by marriage.




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The Parker J Cole Show — Empowering Men Enduring Grief

Parker J Cole BannerLast month, we focused on women’s empowerment in different areas of life — from purity, to boundary settings, Biblical studies, and in the midst of illness. This month, we will be focusing on men’s empowerment in different areas. So join me for a series of discussions to empower men.

This week on the Parker J Cole Show, we will be empoering men going through grief. Grief encompasses many aspects of life from the lost of a spouse or child, to the lost of a parent or friend. Sometime grief encompasses the loss of financial income and stability, personal goals, and other things. However, even in the changing culture of gender roles, men are still expected to be strong and resilent. Yet sometimes, grief can be hard to get over.

Join me for this edition of the Parker J Cole Show as I talk with author and survivor, Gary Roe about empowering men enduring grief. You can call in at 646-668-8485, press 1 to be live on air. Or, you download the Stitcher app on your mobile. Or, you can click on the link here: http://tobtr.com/8671599

The Parker J Cole Show — Empowering Women in the Midst of Illness with Elizabeth Chalker

Parker J Cole BannerElizabeth Chalker is no stranger to illness. She has been suffering from a debilitating disease for years. From being on the fast track in life and success to dealing with chronic pain and fatigue every day, no one would be more surprised to hear bitterness and resentment from her lips.

However, even in the midst of illness Elizabeth continues to empower women with her story. I called her book, ‘Hanging on by the Scratch Marks my Nails Left Behind’ a book that is open heart surgery for the soul. When pain wracks your body and no one seems to get it. When the doctors can’t figure out what to do, and medicine gives no ease, how can you be empowered?

On this episode of the Parker J Cole show, Elizabeth will tell you how to be empowered in the midst of illness. Join me for a discussion of joy in the midst of pain and contentment in the middle of adversity. You can call in at 646-668-8485, press 1 to be live on air. Or, you can download the Stitcher app. Or, click on the link here:  http://tobtr.com/8487691. Tune in!

Tonight on the Write Stuff — Special Edition of the Parker J Cole Show–I Miss You

*****SPECIAL BROADCAST*****

I aired this show on the Parker J Cole show about ten days ago. It has quickly become a show that has been listened to over and over again. Even through the holidays, people are grieving and dealing with pain. I hope this show encourages you as it has me.

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The past several shows of the Parker J Cole have focused on dealing with difficult times during the Christmas season. This episode rounds it all up with a single phrase — I Miss You.

When a loved one has passed away it’s very difficult to get into the holiday spirit. The grief you may experience can be insurmountable, crushing you. It’s a black hole sucking the joy from your heart. It’s a tiny whole in the fabric of your universe siphoning away the happy times you’ve shared with you loved one.

All in all, you miss them.

How do you survive the holidays?

Join me with a survivor and author of the book “I Miss You: A Holiday Survival Kit” Gary Roe as he helps you to survive grief during the holidays. Call in at 646-595-2083, press 1 to be live on air. Or, click on the link here: http://tobtr.com/8174321. Tune In!

ABOUT THE BOOK

thumbLosing a loved one is painful. Life will never be the same.

And if this wasn’t hard enough, the holidays are bearing down upon you. What in the world are you supposed to do?

You need a grief survival kit designed for the holidays. That’s why I wrote Surviving the Holidays without You: Navigating Grief During Special Seasons.

As a hospice chaplain, I’ve had the honor of walking with thousands of hurting people through deep, dark valleys of grief. From my personal grief experiences and theirs, I’ve gathered some tools that can help you not only survive the holidays, but heal and grow through them.

Even though these holidays will be different, they can still be good – very good.

In Surviving the Holidays without You, you’ll discover the answers to these questions:

• Why are the holidays so hard?
• How can I manage my own and others’ expectations?
• Is it possible for holidays to be good this year? How?
• Sometimes I feel misunderstood, judged, and alone. How do I handle that?
• How can I grieve and celebrate at the same time?
• I need to make wise choices about what to do, when, and with whom. How do I do that?
• I don’t know how to move on. What does moving on look like?
• How can I use the holidays to grieve well, honor my loved one, and love others?

Give yourself the gift of navigating grief well this holiday season. You’ll be glad you did.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

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Gary Roe has been a campus minister, church-planter in Japan, and pastor in Texas and Washington. He currently serves as a writer, speaker and chaplain with Hospice Brazos Valley in Central Texas.

He is the author of four books, including Heartbroken (Amazon Bestseller, 2015 National Indie Excellence Award Finalist) and Not Quite Healed (co-authored with New York Times Bestseller Cecil Murphey, 2013 Lime Award Finalist for Excellence in Non-Fiction). With more than 250 articles in print, he is a popular speaker at a wide variety of venues.

 

The Parker J Cole Show — Trial by Fire with Brita Skinner

PARKER J COLE BANNERChronic pain sufferers deal with pain on a daily basis. For some, it happens for long periods of tme and then a brief respite. For others, it’s a constant companion of fire, of sharp shooting pains, of aches, and muscle spasms. And still for others, sleep is not a respite. The pain burrows through their dreams. Every hour, every minute, is spent in an agony of existence

When you are in pain all the time, you wonder if God is there. If He’s supposed to be so powerful, so loving, so kind and caring — why is He letting me go through this? Doesn’t He hear my screams? Doesn’t He know my life isn’t supposed to be lived this way?

You’ve prayed and cried. And the pain persists. Can God really be there in the midst of pain that never seems to end?

Join me as I talked with Brita Skinner, fellow author and chronic pain sufferer as she gives her insight to those of the Body of Christ who may be going through. Call in at 646-595-2083, press 1 to be live on air. Or, you can click on the link here: http://tobtr.com/8070151.Or, you can download the WLUV radio mobile app.  Tune in!

Tonight on the Write Stuff — What Alzheimer’s Cannot Do with R. J. Thesman

According to Medical News Today website, Alzheimer’s disease is a neurological disorder in which the death of brain cells causes memory loss and cognitive decline. A neurodegenerative type of dementia, the disease starts mild and gets progressively worse

Seeing our loved ones forget their names, their families, and the world around them can be heartbreaking. But in the midst of such trauma for both our loved ones affected by Alzheimer’s and those who provide care, we have to realize and understand one thing: as strong of a hold this disease has, there are some Alzheimer’s cannot do.

It is always a pleasure and an honor to showcase today’s guest on this episode of the Write Stuff. November is National Alzheimer’s Disease Awareness Month and National Caregiver Month and she always brings encouragement, education, and knowledgeable information. Join me for an insightful and inspiring discussion with our returning guest co-host and contributor, RJ Thesman, author of the Reverend G series. You can call in at 646-595-2083, press 1 to be live on air. Or, you can click on the link here: http://tobtr.com/8045959. Or, you can download the WLUV radio mobile app. Tune In.

ABOUT THE BOOKS


Rev-G-Cover-w-Frame-659x1024How can a minister fulfill her calling when she can barely remember the order of the Minor Prophets? When Reverend G hears the devastating diagnosis – dementia with the possibility of early-onset Alzheimer’s – she struggles with the pain of forgetting those she loves and the fear of losing her connection with God. With the help of her friends at the assisted living facility, Bert, a farmer from Oklahoma, Roxie, the stressed-out activities director and Gabriel, a cat with the gift of forecasting death, she soon discovers there’s humor to be found in forgetting part of the Lord’s Prayer, finding her iron in the freezer and losing a half-gallon of ice cream. And she discovers that while the question she wants to ask is, ‘Why,’ the answer really is, ‘Who.’


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Three months after a fire ripped through Cove Creek Assisted Living Facility, repairs are complete, but even as Reverend G and her cat, Gabriel move back into their apartment, the retired pastor realizes life just isn’t the same. She continues to minister to her fellow residents — the widower who reads the same book over and over and the woman who waits by the front door for the family who never arrives. Even Gabriel is back at work, making his rounds and forecasting death. But while Reverend G is able to find the words to conduct a funeral service, anticipates the birth of her first grandchild  and plans her future with her beloved, Chris, she battles her worsening Alzheimer’s symptoms — memory loss, paranoia, anger and fear. Now, her worst nightmare seems to be coming true. God hasn’t spoken to her in weeks. Has Reverend G lost her connection with God?


Rev-G-3-Cover-674x1024She has reached the final stages of Alzheimer’s still, Reverend G finds ways to bring encouragement and humor to the residents of Cove Creek. The cast of characters at the assisted living facility widens around her, even as her world begins to shrink. She becomes a grandmother and her relationship with Chris deepens through need and grace. Meanwhile, the disease is always there, robbing her of memories and now, even her words. But even as Reverend G struggles to communicate with her friends and family, she remains steadfastly honest in prayer. Once worried about forgetting God, the brave little minister discovers that He will never forget her.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR

RJ ThesmanR. J. Thesman has been a writer since she flipped open her Red Chief tablet and scribbled her first story. Eventually, she had to stop writing and go to school where she earned an education degree and taught at various levels. Thesman is a Biblical counselor and a Stephen Minister. She has worked in a variety of nonprofits and has served as campus minister to international students. With a variety of communications skills, Thesman is always writing and building more publishing credits. She teaches writing workshops and enjoys helping beginning writers birth their words. Thesman is the mother of an adult son and enjoys reading, gardening and cooking – especially anything with blueberries.